I might be crazy but how does 30 days of blogging tips and mom hacks sound? I have a ton of awesome content about how to become a blogger while also being a stay at home mom or working mother. It’s not easy but it’s totally possible. And it’s time for Day 10, where I discuss the dangers of micromanaging.
Now, obviously micromanaging is not dangerous as in your life is at risk, but it can have a negative impact on your life and business. When I learned not to micromanage it made a huge impact on both my personal growth and business growth. And, that's why I am addressing this as part of our 30-day series.
What is micromanaging?
Just in case you aren't 100% sure of what micromanagement is I'm going to define it for you. If you are a micromanager you want to control every part of a project or task, even the small parts. When you delegate a task to someone you can't keep your hands out of it. Here are some signs that you struggle with micromanaging:
You are unhappy with the way others do things because it's not the way you would do them, even if they get the same results
You want to be the one in control of any decision making
You want to be in the loop on every little detail
You redo things that someone else did that weren’t quite up to your standards even though it didn't really matter
If you are struggling to make the connection between these signs and your own' life, here's what this looks like at play in your life:
You reload the dishwasher after your husband loads it because the plates are facing the "wrong direction"
When your young child folds the laundry to help, you refold it so it's just right
You hire a freelancer to complete a task for your blogging business. But, instead of telling them the end result that you are looking for, you tell them exactly what they need to do to get the result.
Why it's important to avoid micromanaging
I'll admit, I loved to micromanage. I liked doing things in a specific way in both my business and personal life. I liked having my hands in everything and was very particular. These were not great qualities to have.
In fact, they are qualities that can make you really irritating to other people. And, living like this stunts how happy you can be because you are spending so much time focused on having things done a very specific way. This robs you of time that could be spent doing something more productive. I know because that used to be me.
This tip is coming on Day 10 because we've spent the first 9 days talking about all the things that you are going to be doing and the changes that you are going to see in your life as you build your business.
If you've missed the first 9 days of this series you can watch on the Allison Lindstrom YouTube Channel and don't forget to subscribe while you're there.
On Day 9, we talked about the importance of asking for help. As you ask for more help in various tasks, that assistance is likely going to come with a lot of influence from a lot of other people in your life. With all this change, you might be tempted to try to have things done a very specific way in an order to minimize the number of changes.
What this looks like put into practice
My recommendation is when someone else is completing a task for you, as long as there is no risk or danger to your family, let them do it their own way.
Here's an example from my own life.
When my son James was little, I had a routine. You know…that typical “mom” routine.
It was somewhat relaxed. But, there were certain things that I liked to have him do throughout the day because I had created a well-rounded balance of activities. When dad or someone else stepped in to help, it was hard to let go and let them change the schedule the way they wanted to.
So, for example, dad's version of bedtime might look different than your version of bedtime. Dad's version might include a few minutes of wrestling, a lot of excitement, and an animated story before the child finally falls asleep.
Your version might be a quiet story and snuggles. But, when dad helps out, it's ok that his way is different if the end result is the same. If bedtime is still happening and you didn't have to be the one doing it, simply say "thank you". You don't need to correct the method that was used.
Why I believe moms struggle with micromanaging
As moms, it's easy to wrap up our value and worth to our family by the tasks that we are completing. It's easy to question if we are still needed if we hand over tasks and someone else is able to get the same results in a different way. Our emotions can even lead us to feel like we are being replaced, even though delegating the task was our idea to help grow our business.
Don't allow this insecurity to overwhelm you or make you latch on to micromanaging. The ability to delegate and achieve the same results means that you are a good leader. It's ok. Even if someone else is doing your normal routine a different way and succeeding, your babies still need you.
The more time we spend micromanaging the little details, the more time we are robbing from ourselves. We could be putting that time and energy towards our business. That's the whole point of having people to help us anyway.
You aren't working on your business if you find someone to help you and then spend all your time managing them. You've defeated the entire purpose of delegating.
The beauty of not micromanaging
When you learn to delegate without micromanaging, things will start to change for the better. It helps make life easier. You will be able to prioritize how your time is spent. This was a huge issue that I had to overcome in my own life. That's why I knew I had to mention it here in this series.
Running a blogging business happens within your home and does impact your personal life more than (in my experience) any other job you might ever have. Learning not to micromanage is good for your personal growth, which is closely tied with your blogging business growth.