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Life After Vacation: 9 Tips for Getting Back to a Normal Schedule

If you've ever enjoyed a long weekend or an extended vacation, then you know how hard it is to go back to normal life. Currently, I am struggling THIS MUCH to bounce back. Honestly, it's a miracle the bills are being paid on time and the dishes are being washed because I feel so disorganized. You may have noticed that the blog has been a little quiet these past few weeks. My family and I packed the car and took a little vacation to Florida for one last hurrah before the weather gets colder. And since the Hubby had a business trip to Alabama scheduled for the following week, we tagged along so my son and I could explore a new city. I was able to take a break from social media, read a good book, and soak up tons of sun. It was wonderful!

Frugal on the Prairie

Here's my favorite photo from Florida of little James and I. Look at those little fingers pointing! Kiss kiss kiss!

Here are the tips I'll be using to jump out of vacation mode and get back to a normal schedule.

1. Check the Calendar

The first thing you should do is check the calendar for anything you may have missed or any important appointments/dates that are coming up. There could be a birthday card that needs to be sent or a bill that needs to be paid. Carefully comb through your e-mail for any reminders, as well as that big pile of mail you likely have sitting on your desk.

2. Write a To-Do List

As soon as you've noted all of your important, upcoming appointments you should make a to-do list. Proudly display it on your refrigerator or bulletin board so you're not likely to forget it exists. Be sure to get detailed with your tasks so that nothing is forgotten. Don't feel silly writing down things like unpacking your suitcase or getting an oil change. The ability to cross off those easy items from your list will give you a boost of energy and a feeling of accomplishment.

3. Be Realistic

Be honest with yourself about what you'd like to do and what will really happen.I grossly overestimated my abilities to write while I was on vacation and - you guessed it- didn't write a single word. Don't plan a doctor's appointment first thing on Monday morning if you know you won't be home until late Sunday.

Also, give yourself the freedom to say "No." I'm not always viewed as the "Yes Girl" in a lot of my mom groups because I am painfully aware of my social limits and busy schedule. I will rarely sign up for something unless I really know I can follow through. If you're too tired for a play date or a volunteer project, that is okay! 

4. Ask for Help

Even the simplest tasks will seem difficult if you're still in vacation mode. There's no shame in asking for an extra hand to help you, regardless of whether or not it's typically your responsibility. Just be sure to return the favor if your partner or children ask for some additional help with their chores too.

5. Give Yourself 48 Hours

The best thing you can do to help you recuperate from your vacation (yes, it's normal to look at it like that) is to just be patient. You may be going from living in a hotel and eating on the road to making your own bed and meals again. I typically find that it only takes about 48 hours to feel like myself again if I work through my normal schedule slowly, but surely.

6. Clean the Sink & the Coffee Maker

There's just something about an empty, shiny sink and a working coffee maker that brightens up the morning. If you know you have to quickly head back to work, just take a few minutes to clean the sink and set up the coffee maker timer for the morning. The rest of your kitchen may be messy but this one area will help you feel like you're still somewhat organized.

7. Hydrate & Let Your Body Rest

Do you sometimes feel like you need a vacation from your vacation? We drove 10 hours from Birmingham to Houston (home) in one day. Sitting in a car and driving is exhausting.

Make sure you're getting plenty of water, both during your trip and once you've arrived home. Then rest. Rest and rest as much as your schedule will allow. Naps are encouraged to help you recover!

8. Make a Home-Cooked Meal

Nothing feels more like home than a home-cooked meal. Don't worry, there's no need to get fancy and whip up a boeuf bourguignon. A simple dish of spaghetti or a grilled cheese sandwich will work just fine. Surround yourself with "homey" scents and tasks, which include your easiest-to-cook meals.

9. Set the Timer

Do you unload the car and basically dump all of the luggage in the living room? We do this too so don't be shy if you're like us!

Luggage needs to be put away and clothes need to be washed but only in small increments. If you're feeling particularly energized then go through everything. But I like to avoid a burnout by setting the timer for 30 minute increments and taking a small break when it goes off. It sounds lazy but it works like a miracle.

Coming home from a wonderful vacation is never easy. Unfortunately, it's unavoidable. Appreciate the little things, like the comfort of your own bed, to help you acclimate to your busy life and responsibilities. Be patient with yourself and let all of your little efforts slowly add up. Rome wasn't built in a day, friends. You won't get back to your normal schedule that quickly either.

Sunshine Blogger Award

I am so honored to have been nominated for the Sunshine Blogger Award by Kayla at Shoeholic No More. Thank you, Kayla! You made my day!

What is the Sunshine Blogger Award?

The Sunshine Blogger Award is given to those who are inspiring and bring sunshine into the lives of their readers and fellow bloggers. It is such an honor to receive!

Who brings sunshine into your day? Let me know in the comments below. It doesn't have to be a blogger!

The Rules:

  1. Thank the person that nominated you
  2. Answer the questions from the person that nominated you
  3. Nominate some other bloggers for this award
  4. Write the same amount of questions for the bloggers you have nominated
  5. Notify the bloggers you have nominated

The Questions

What is your dream job? Pretend that money isn’t a factor. I would love to be an author. Oh, and a travel blogger. Oh, and a foodie blogger. I love to travel, eat, and write about personal finance so if I could just combine the three that would be lovely!

What would you do if you won $1million? Pay off all of my student loan debt and buy a home with a lush, oversized yard for my son to play in and a library big enough to pull all of my books out of storage. Ah, dreams.

If you could be any animal, what would you be? I would be a dog because my son has an infinite love for them.

If you could have any superpower, what power would you have? The ability to travel at the speed of light because I hate sitting in Houston traffic.

What is your favorite food? (Feel free to share a recipe.) PIZZA! I know they're not Whole30 approved but I like to indulge in Taco Pizza from Budget Bytes and Spinach Artichoke Pizza from Cooking Classy every once in a while.

Here are my nominees for the award.

Charlee @ Humble in a Heartbeat

Kristina @ Cents and Order

Janeen @ Loving Littles

Kristen @ Joyfully Thriving

Christina @ Embracing Simple

Here are my questions for you. 

  1. What is your "reach for the stars" goal as a blogger?
  2. Who is your greatest inspiration?
  3. What does a typical Day in the Life look like for you?
  4. What makes you smile?
  5. What is your favorite money saving or personal finance tip?

My Favorite Posts from the Nominees

  1. Two Incomes to One: Projecting Expenses for One Income - Humble in a Heartbeat
  2. 5 Ways You Are Throwing Money Away - Cents and Order
  3. How We're Paying Off Our Mortgage 10 Years Early - Loving Littles
  4. A Biblical Version of Oh, the Places You'll Go! - Joyfully Thriving
  5. 7 Inexpensive Ways to Add a Little Luxury to Your Day - Embracing Simple

My Most Popular Posts

  1. Budget Your Money with the 50/20/30 Rule
  2. 11 Financial Habits You Need to Start Today
  3. Baby Gear You DON'T Need
  4. The Busy Person's Whole30 Meal Plan - Week 1
  5. 13 Ways to Decorate Your Home on a Budget

4 Things You Need to Become a Morning Person

This is a Guest Post from Charlee at Humble in a Heartbeat

A Few Facts About the Guest Author:

  • wife to Argentine and mother to two girls
  • founder and author of Humble in a Heartbeat
  • enjoys watching cooking shows and trying her hand at new recipes
  • loves to share her money mistakes with others so they can do better
  • wants to be a world traveler one day in the near future

Night owls have way more fun, right? Perhaps, but sometimes the responsibilities of being an adult require that night owls turn into early risers. Whether you need to wake up early to get to work or you just want to rise before the kids are out of bed, you can become a morning person if you want. I know because I was a hard-core night owl for a good 5 years until I decided to break that habit.

Here are four absolutely essential things you need in order to become a morning person.

1. A Bedtime

Bedtimes are for kids, aren't they? Actually, they work incredibly well for adults, too, and you need to start giving yourself one! A bedtime makes you feel sleepy about the same time every night, which makes it so much easier to stick to an earlier bedtime.

If you normally go to sleep at 1 AM, instead of changing your bedtime to10 o'clock right away, move your bedtime to 12:30 until you are used to it and you can actually fall asleep soon after laying down. Then move your bedtime up to midnight. Keep moving your bedtime closer and closer to your desired bedtime, and you will soon be yawning when your kids are ready to go to bed! ;)

I was actually one of those really boring roommates in college because I went to bed by 10:30 every night. Any later and I was a zombie in my 8 o'clock class the next day.

So what happened that turned me into a night owl? Well, I got an evening/late night job for the last three years of college and I just couldn't go to sleep any earlier than midnight anymore. Ten o'clock would hit and I'd still have at least two more hours to be really productive or just chill and watch some Late Night with Jimmy Fallon (which, yes, I'm aware it has changed to The Tonight Show with Jimmy Fallon).

One reason it took me so long to finally give myself a bedtime was, well, we had babies. Babies don't really sleep when we want them to, so I had to be on a late night AND early morning schedule for a good 2+ years.

When both of my daughters finally started sleeping through the night and going to bed at a decent hour, I felt like I could tackle mornings again. Only, I didn't put myself to bed early enough to want to wake up earlier. It wasn’t until I set a bedtime and started sticking to it that I had a much easier time waking up in the morning. 2. A Bedtime Routine

A bedtime really does no good if you aren't actually ready to go to bed. If you eat a bunch of donut holes and down some soda only an hour before your bedtime, you probably won't be falling asleep right away. A bedtime routine can help you to relax and get ready to actually sleep.

Instead of doing things that add more stimulation to your mind, get in the habit of winding down with a good book, some soft music, and turning down the lights. All these things can work in your favor to help you hit the bed and fall asleep fast.

One of the most annoying things I used to experience on a regular basis was lying down to sleep and then staying awake for a good hour or more. I either had too much on my mind or I did something right before bed that didn't aid in getting me to sleep. Now, I take a little time before bed to read something, and I turn down the lights so my mind can get ready for sleep.

3. Willpower

Even if you have a bedtime and a bedtime routine, you might still struggle to become a morning person until you get some serious willpower. You need willpower to hear your alarm, to not hit snooze on your alarm, and to get out of bed as soon as you hear it.

Before I had a bedtime, I would sleep through my alarm clock nearly every.single.morning! Either that or my husband would hear it and turn it off before I could even hear it! If you are like me and normally sleep through your alarm clock, you need to find willpower to change that bad habit.

The true test of your willpower will come around winter. At least for me, it’s the worst time of year to get out of bed because the house is super cold and my blankets are nice and warm. If you can just hop out of bed and get a robe and slippers on, you shouldn’t have to suffer any longer than a couple minutes.

4. Motivation

I believe that having motivation is one of the biggest things that will transform your morning experience to help you become an early riser. Without motivation, you won't stick to your bedtime or have the willpower to get out of bed.

You need to find your motivation. Think about what gets you excited. Would you be motivated to wake up if you could use that time to read or practice a musical instrument? Whatever it is, your motivation should be reason enough for you to get out of bed every day.

My motivation for waking up every morning is my blog. I wasn’t motivated to get out of bed for “me time” or else I would have done it long ago. I guess, though, that my blog could be counted as time for myself since it does make me happy. My blog is my passion and I look forward to working on it every morning. Sometimes I wish I only had to sleep for a few hours so I could get up even earlier to work on it.

Bonus: Stamina

Having stamina is not necessary to become a morning person, but it will be easier to stay awake if you have it. Find something in the morning that can help you feel energized so you can get your day going as soon as you wake up. You don’t want to waste time being lethargic when you could be working on important things.

I have been working on getting some stamina, because even when I go to bed on time, get out of bed as soon as my alarm clock goes off, and get downstairs to start working on my blog, I sometimes sit in front of the computer and fall back to sleep! Either I need to go to bed earlier or I need a little energy to get me moving.

If you have the desire to be a morning person, be sure to give yourself a bedtime, have a bedtime routine, find the willpower to get out of bed, and do some soul-searching for your motivation so that it will be easy to get up early. If you still want to crawl back into bed, you might need a little stamina to help you stay awake. If you do all these things on a consistent basis, you will soon find yourself up at the crack of dawn and getting things done before your entourage awakes!

Be sure to check out my favorite posts from Charlee like her recipe for Poor Man's Bread and the ways she saves money when shopping at Target

11 Reasons You're Not Reaching Your Goals

Goals are an integral part of how most successful people reach the heights they do. It is very rare that someone will say, "I became incredibly successful and I wasn't even trying to accomplish anything." In fact, I would argue that there is no pure triumph without goals, effort, and dedication. It can feel like your dreams have gone up in smoke if you never make any progress. But I always believe there's a way to overcome failure. (In fact, I wrote about 5 easy ways you can do that). Here are 11 reasons why you're not reaching your goals.

1. There's a lack of focus.

This is the number one problem for people who never seen to be able to accomplish their goals.

Think of how detailed your number one hope or dream is. Answer yourself honestly about whether it is realistic or even well defined. Here is an example of lack of focus vs. slam-dunk focus.

Lack of Focus: "I want to lose weight."

Slam-Dunk Focus: "I want to lose 30 pounds by December 1, 2015 by exercising and eating healthier."

The first example isn't really considered a true goal at all. It's a wish, a hope, an idea. A realistic goal is a clear, well-defined target that anyone can reach, even if it initially seems far-fetched. But they must start with slam-dunk focus!

2. There's no accountability.

For the sake of this post, let's pretend you want to reach the goal listed above and lose 30 pounds by December 1, 2015 by exercising and eating healthier.

So you start jogging every day and buying overpriced fruits and vegetables from Whole Foods. But then life gets a little hectic and you buy one snack size bag of candy for an extra boost in energy. No big deal, right? I mean, it was just a bag of candy and who would find out anyway? That's the problem!

You're more likely to stick to your goals if you have a partner doing it with you or cheering you on. You need someone to turn to and confide in if you start to lose your resolve.

3. There's no timeframe.

Expectations often become realities through hard work and deadlines. You wouldn't hand twenty 3rd graders science homework and say, "Just get it back to me whenever." To ensure their educational development you would set a due date and build upon the progress they make.

We start teaching our children this way for a reason because human nature will sometimes respond very well to expectations. You'll be more inclined to work hard and stay focused if you have a deadline.

4. Energy is wasted on distractions.

There is usually something more entertaining to do than the undertaking of complicated goals. In the example of losing weight, you could spend hours staring at Pinterest for cute outfits and swimsuits you can't wait to try on. But if you spend all that time wishing and not working towards your goal, you may never get there.

Stay focused by writing out a step by step plan. Then be sure to complete these tasks in order! Don't jump around at random and get distracted. You've got this. Just stay focused.

5. You're listening to negative influences.

One of the best ways to cheat on your diet is to hang out with someone who doesn't believe you have the willpower to lose weight and baked you a cake to prove it.

Negative comments like "I don't know if you can do this," or "It's okay if you just give up," are things that you don't need to hear.

No, it's not the end of the world if you never reach your goals. But don't be convinced that you'll never cross the finish line before you even start the race.

6. There's a lack of measurability.

We all need a little encouragement when the going gets rough. Taking note of the progress you've made is the perfect incentive to keep up the good work.

Remember when you listed all of your goals with a deadline in number 3? Start keeping track of how close you are to completing each step. Continuously ask yourself, "Where am I compared to yesterday? Am I making progress or falling behind?"

7. You're too hard on yourself.

Negative influences can really make or break your self esteem. Other people may say negative things to you but you should also consider whether you are being too hard on yourself.

Do you beat yourself up for failing to reach small targets? Or do you give yourself a pep talk to overcome the challenges you're facing? Be determined in your efforts but also be your own number one cheerleader.

8. Nothing is written down.

This weakness ties in with the first problem I listed. Where there's a lack of focus, there's usually no written structure.

Taking pen to paper (or computer ink to computer paper) will sometimes trick our brains into thinking our goals are more realistic. You can hang them up above your desk or on your refrigerator. They act as a constant reminder of who you want to be, where you're going, and how you're going to get there.

9. You focus on everything and nothing at all.

Do you know the phrase "spreading yourself too thin?" Say that you've created a list of 10 things you should do to eat healthier, exercise, and eventually lose weight. Do you focus on one step at a time or do you try to finish all ten at once?

As tempting as it is to dive right in and power through everything, you'll go much further by being patient and making progress one step at a time.

10. Your goals are not your own.

Spend the next few minutes thinking about your top ten hopes and dreams. What do they look like? How do they change your life? Does the idea of seeing them come true make you smile?

How can you pour 110% of your being into a goal that is not even your own? Let's go back to the example we talked about before. Are you losing 30 pounds for yourself or for someone else?

11. You're not being patient.

Be patient with your work and you'll often find things operating more efficiently. If you rush past all of your duties, you'll miss important details or steps that cam hurt your progress later on.

I've taken on large projects thinking, "If I can just quickly work through this I know I'll see results in no time!" Nine times out of ten I either failed or didn't put in my best work because I was in a hurry.

Did any of these eleven problems sound familiar to you? If the answer is yes, you are not alone! I wouldn't be able to write about them if I hadn't made the mistakes myself.

How do you reach your goals? What other ways might hurt someone from reaching their goals? 

7 Things You Need to Stop Wasting Time On

Do you frequently find yourself with a long to-do list that never gets done? You may not realize it but you could be wasting time on unnecessary routine activities. Sometimes what looks like a necessity is not really that important at all. In fact, it could be the very thing that's slowing you down. Here’s where a "time suck"- an activity that sucks the time out of your day- comes in. It takes advantage of you in the form of binge watching seasons on Netflix, getting lost in the black hole of social media, and running around without a clear goal in mind. Don't let this happen! Stop wasting time online or watching television if it's not helping you reach your goals.

I used to be constantly moving but would only make the slightest dent in my projects. I held onto my excuses like a safety net to help justify why I never got anything done. I should've just tattooed "I'm a busy mom, I can't chase silly dreams right now" on my forehead because I said it so often. Yes, being a parent is hard work! But I gave myself a cold dose of reality by recognizing that we're all busy regardless of our title. 

So I started an experiment to see exactly where my time management was going wrong. I wrote down my activities from the moment I woke up to the minute I went to bed. I took note of exactly what I spent most of my time on and whether or not it was really that important.

Embarrassingly, I realized that most of my days were wasted on activities that held little to no impact on my life. I talked to my friends about the results and the vote was unanimous. We were all making the same time management mistakes. Here are the 7 ways you may be wasting time in your day, just like we were.

1. Staying connected 24/7.

The progression in technology has drastically changed how we use social media, the internet, and everything in between. Think of the cell phone you owned 10 years ago. It didn’t nearly have the features your iPhone has now! With those exciting new changes comes an increase in the time that you use it. But is that really a good thing?

Now I’m not saying you need to stop being connected to the web entirely. In fact, my smartphone is the most efficient way I can maintain and promote my work from home so I’m a huge advocate of it. But it's important to pay closer attention to how often you're on your device and how it affects your relationships with family and friends.

Let's talk about the elephant in the room here when it comes to television. Netflix binge watching is simultaneously the greatest and worst part of entertainment access. Trust me, you’re not the only one who gets sucked into watching a whole season. I’m not even sure what happened to my week when Netflix released House of Cards. All I know is that it was wonderful while it lasted but I got absolutely nothing done.

2. Checking your e-mail at the wrong time.

It's never been more apparent than today that constant e-mail can really slow down your schedule. Most of us check our e-mail first thing in the morning, then spend that time responding to time insensitive messages. The problem in this is that someone else's agenda has become more important than our own.

Check to see if your inbox is too cluttered. Unsubscribe to all the unnecessaries. If you don’t miss weekly newsletters from J.Crew in a month then you don't need to receive it anymore.

If you know you’re most productive early in the morning, then check your e-mail at night. I am a powerhouse writer and can spit out 1000 words before I finish my cup of coffee at 5:30am. But by 8:00pm I'm exhausted and can barely put together a sentence.

I forced myself to reschedule sorting my e-mail to a later time when I realized how much it slowed me down in the morning. Now I only check it for an hour in the afternoon. It has literally boosted my productivity! I get 3x as many things done by moving the most important task of my day (writing) to my most productive time (early morning).

3. Believing your negative thoughts and influences.

This is a battle we have all struggled with at one time or another. Negative people and influences are slowing you down and tearing you apart. It's time to let them go!

Are your closest friends the wrong kind of friends? John C. Maxwell wrote, “Every minute you spend with the wrong people takes away the time you have to spend with the right ones.”

Think of the people you spend most of your time with and ask yourself these questions.

  • Does this person consistently complain or say negative things about others?
  • Do they require you to change your actions or decisions to suit their own preferences or needs?
  • Does this person inspire you to be the best version of yourself?
  • Do you leave their company feeling positive and rejuvenated?

4. Obsessing about never-ending tasks.

I wrote a post about why I don't think dirty dishes should be cleaned after every mealand I still follow this rule. Your home should be clean, tidy, and relaxing. But running a "tight ship” and constantly working on never-ending chores won’t leave you with time to do anything else.

For example, I do laundry every week but don’t do it every day. There will always be a toddler's shirt with jelly and a stained towel that needs to be washed. But I will leave them until Saturday when I can wash, fold, and put away everything at once.

5. Working on to-do lists with no purpose or schedule.

This is a problem for those who never seem to get things done. If you quickly run toward your goals but never stop to make sure you're going in the right direction, you could take a lot longer to accomplish things.

Make sure your ambitions have a clear purpose and list each of them on paper. Then take your list a step further and number each goal by rank of importance, with number one being the most urgent.

I've always been a list maker but it wasn't until recently that I became good at actually crossing everything off. I used to make a list for the day and then take a week to finish it. But I changed my approach by having a defined purpose (i.e. create 10 awesome posts, spend the afternoon playing with the baby, & finish client work) and listing everything in a prioritized order. Now I almost always accomplish my daily goals by the time I go to bed.

6. Worrying about things you can't control.

There really aren’t enough hours in a day. Don’t beat yourself up over an incomplete to-do list. Tomorrow is a fresh start and you can try again. Give your list/projects/goals the best effort you can and remember that the world doesn't end if you can't get everything done.

However, you should make sure you're not convincing yourself you'll never make any progress. Ability is sometimes connected to our own perception. If you keep saying you can't accomplish something, you never will. But if you say you can, your mind will automatically start looking for the best ways to skirt around or overcome obstacles.

I stopped telling myself, "You'll never accomplish your goals since you're a busy parent," and started saying, "You need to accomplish your goals because you are a parent so you can be the best version of yourself for your kids." I'm the happiest wife and mother I've ever been because of it.

7. Dwelling on the past.

Hang onto your good memories and let the rest go. Don't let your negative past experiences limit your future accomplishments.

We've all been wronged at some point in our lives. We've all made mistakes. We all have something we wished never happened. But none of that can be changed, so why worry about it?

I had a close friend who would not let go of anything from her past. She slowly created a negative barrier of memories around herself over the years. Nowadays it's hard for people to grow close to her because she never seems to be in the present moment. Don't let this person be you!

Take a close look at everything you do in a day to see if there are activities that are slowing you down. If the list above isn't holding you back, make sure nothing else is either. Can you imagine spending the rest of your life only accomplishing a fraction of your goals? I don't want that either!

It can usually feel like there isn't enough time in one day to complete all our projects. But the activities you may think are helping could really just be a waste of time. If we eliminate the mindless tasks, we can stop drowning in to-do lists and start accomplishing our goals.

What things are you wasting your time on?

5 Steps to Overcoming Failure

How do we overcome failure?

There's nothing more disheartening than feeling like we've lost and knowing that we haven't accomplished a goal. If we're not careful, it can turn into a never ending pit of depression and self loathing.

I started a business venture a few years ago and failed...miserably if I'm being honest. I wandered into the idea of being a work-at-home mom thinking, "Oh I can totally do this!"

But I had zero focus (I'd just found out we were expecting) and even less energy to put towards it (like I said- pregnant). This means I did little research on how to run a successful self-employed business and even less heavy lifting to make it last.

We all know the phrase "If at first you don't succeed, try try again," but how do we find the motivation to actually try again? I agree that it can be easier to just throw in the towel. But that gets us nowhere. And I know you want to besomewhere. 

Thankfully, my story has a happy ending and I'll lead you to it through these 5 steps.

1. Let yourself feel the failure...and then move on!

Failure stinks! It really, really does. It feels absolutely terrible and can make you think, "I put in all that effort and still didn't succeed. Am I unequipped? Am I stupid? Are people judging or laughing at me?"

My friend, we will all fail at different times in our lives and that is a good thing. Look at failure as a red flag telling you that improvement can be made.

What if every time there was a better way to do something, you received a red flag notification on your phone. You would think," Oh! There's a way I can improve. Thank goodness my phone let me know!"

Failure is like a red flag that says, "I know you're going to the City of Success but I just thought I'd let you know you're heading in the wrong direction."

2. Identify where you failed and why.

Here's the good news: overcoming failure is easier than admitting why you failed. Here's the bad news: You will never move on until you identify your shortcomings first.

Brutal honesty will save your goals. Ask yourself, "Did I work as hard as I could? Did I place my energy in the right direction?"

Note that I use the word could instead of should. There's always an acceptable level of effort that you should put into your goals. But you are exceptional and you can put in an effort of 200% if you put your mind to it!

Remember when my husband and I spent over $6,000 on restaurants and fast food one year? We failed miserably in making sure we had a responsible budget. All our other bills were always paid, so what's the problem?  We could have spent far less on eating and saved the extra cash.

3. Remind yourself that you're still a ROCK STAR!

Whew! You passed the hardest part by being brutally honest with why you failed. Now let's talk about why you are a total ROCK STAR!

Your failure shouldn't be seen as a strike against your intelligence but as one more step towards your success. You are taking the initiative to identify where you failed, why you failed, and how you can improve. THAT is why you are so awesome and will eventually succeed!

4. Create a killer game plan.

Creating a clearly defined and realistic game plan will help keep you focused and stay on track. Make it as detailed as necessary to make sure nothing falls through the cracks.

Be honest about what worked last time and what didn't. Don't waste your experience from the last attempt! Closely examine your procedures from before and take away any important lessons.

Accept that there was some flaw in your previous plan and do the research to find the best alternative. Remember, you're looking for the right path, not just an easy substitute.

My first try at making money from home was pitiful because I didn't have any sort of game plan at all! I quickly learned my lesson after that and created a step-by-step list of ways I could get from A to B to self-employed income.

I reviewed it every single day and held myself accountable by telling my husband "I will have [blank] done by tomorrow," or "My goal is to make [blank] by next month."

5. Educate yourself and ask for help.

A wise person will search for the correct answer while a foolish person will assume their answer is always right. Do your research and educate yourself on the best practices for completing your specific goal.

Swallow your pride and ask for help. This was a hard lesson for me to learn since I desperately wanted to figure everything out on my own. But I when I placed my stubbornness aside, I finally started to see the results I wanted.

Overcoming failure does not have to be as hard as we think. But it does take a willingness to examine our actions and acknowledge where we may be going wrong and what we can do to fix things.

What was the flaw in my attempt to make an income from home and how could I change it? As soon as I identified where I was falling short, I was able to advance to my success.

Remember that overcoming failure can be just a short 5 step process.

  1. Failure may feel like the end of the world but it's not. The world is still here and so are you.
  2. Closely examine all of your previous efforts. Write down every success and every failure.
  3. You're a ROCK STAR because you're still fighting for your goal.
  4. Create a strong path of focus so you can reach your success!
  5. Be honest about your strengths and weaknesses. Educate yourself and ask for guidance when you need it. Don't let pride get in the way of your dreams!

YOU CAN DO THIS. You can overcome this bump in the road and one day you will look back and know that it only made you stronger and wiser.

How do you find the courage to keep fighting for your goals? 

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