I might be crazy but how does 30 days of blogging tips and mom hacks sound? I have a ton of awesome content about how to become a blogger while also being a stay at home mom or working mother. It’s not easy but it’s totally possible. And it’s time for Day 9, where I share a few tips with you about the importance of asking for help when building your blogging business.
Just to be clear here, this post is not talking about getting help with your blog, it's about asking for help with the millions of other tasks that you need to do on a regular basis.
Balancing being a mom and starting a blogging business at home is tough. Our "mom" title comes with a lot of responsibility. We are chauffeurs, hug givers, chefs, boo-boo kissers, housekeepers, and caregivers.
We spend the majority of our days running around getting things done. So, when you try to throw building a blogging business into the mix it's important to get used to the idea of swallowing your pride and learning how to ask for help. You are going to be stretched even more as you add in additional blogging duties.
The importance of asking for help
I know it can feel weird to ask others to help us out. After all, society and social media can give the impression that we should be like the Stepford wives. We should be able to throw an Instagram worthy birthday party while keeping the house spotless, DIY the kids' Halloween costumes, have dinner on the table and run a blogging business, right? Heck no! Social media might give this impression, but that's not how it works.
We need help. I need help, you need help, and guess what? That's perfectly okay. There is nothing wrong with learning how to make life easier by asking your family, or even friends, to jump in and help you out. The trick is you need to find a comfortable way to ask for help.
When you find people to help you carry the load it's going to make things a lot easier on you. And, honestly, it's going to make things easier on your family as well.
This mindset was really hard for me to adopt when I started my blogging business. I didn't think it was fair for me to ask my friends or family, including my husband, to help me with some of the other duties that were usually mine just so I could chase this dream of running my own blog.
But, the reality is that if you never ask for help and you keep trying to do everything on your own, it can lead to resentment. It won't take long for you to burn out. You could end up feeling like you just want to give up.
A tip to use when you ask for help
Hopefully, you have a wonderfully supportive network of family and friends that are willing to jump in and help you carry out your dream. But, even if you do, you still need to let them know that you need help. You need to let them know what you are trying to accomplish and what type of help you need.
I don't know why it's so hard for us to ask for help. Maybe it makes us feel like we are showing weakness. But, asking for help is actually a sign of strength. You are saying you want to make it work and are willing to ask for help in order to see it happen.
Here's my best tip when it comes to asking others for help—be specific. I'm talking super specific. I used to say "I just need help" to my husband and nothing would happen. The problem was he was ready and willing but just didn't know where to jump in and start helping.
We tend to think that others should be able to just "figure it out", but it doesn't work that way. I was changing up my pattern and what we were used to in our family schedule, and it left him in the dark about what kind of help I was looking for.
That's why we need to be really specific. Instead of saying "I really need help", say something like, "I really need you to unload and load the dishwasher after dinner.”
The more specific you are, the more your willing spouse, child, or friend will be able to accomplish. It also makes it easier for them because they aren't trying to guess about what you want done.
Teach your children to help
I want to include a quick reminder that if you are a mom, you can start delegating tasks to your children. Obviously, if they are an infant this doesn't work but you get my point. ;)
A lot of moms feel that they are supposed to do everything for their children. Remember, the goal of parenting is to raise successful and competent adults. That means even toddlers can start learning how and where to help out.
It's good for children to learn the value of hard work and have tasks that they are responsible for when it comes to caring for the house. Now is the time to start teaching them.
It might be faster and easier for you to do it yourself at first, but if you stick with it they will learn what to do and you can step back. It's a learning process for both you and your children.
When you bring a blogging business into your life, you are also bringing it into the lives of your family. Don't be afraid to ask your family for help so you can have time to get your work done.
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