How do we overcome failure?
There's nothing more disheartening than feeling like we've lost and knowing that we haven't accomplished a goal. If we're not careful, it can turn into a never ending pit of depression and self loathing.
I started a business venture a few years ago and failed...miserably if I'm being honest. I wandered into the idea of being a work-at-home mom thinking, "Oh I can totally do this!"
But I had zero focus (I'd just found out we were expecting) and even less energy to put towards it (like I said- pregnant). This means I did little research on how to run a successful self-employed business and even less heavy lifting to make it last.
We all know the phrase "If at first you don't succeed, try try again," but how do we find the motivation to actually try again? I agree that it can be easier to just throw in the towel. But that gets us nowhere. And I know you want to besomewhere.
Thankfully, my story has a happy ending and I'll lead you to it through these 5 steps.
1. Let yourself feel the failure...and then move on!
Failure stinks! It really, really does. It feels absolutely terrible and can make you think, "I put in all that effort and still didn't succeed. Am I unequipped? Am I stupid? Are people judging or laughing at me?"
My friend, we will all fail at different times in our lives and that is a good thing. Look at failure as a red flag telling you that improvement can be made.
What if every time there was a better way to do something, you received a red flag notification on your phone. You would think," Oh! There's a way I can improve. Thank goodness my phone let me know!"
Failure is like a red flag that says, "I know you're going to the City of Success but I just thought I'd let you know you're heading in the wrong direction."
2. Identify where you failed and why.
Here's the good news: overcoming failure is easier than admitting why you failed. Here's the bad news: You will never move on until you identify your shortcomings first.
Brutal honesty will save your goals. Ask yourself, "Did I work as hard as I could? Did I place my energy in the right direction?"
Note that I use the word could instead of should. There's always an acceptable level of effort that you should put into your goals. But you are exceptional and you can put in an effort of 200% if you put your mind to it!
Remember when my husband and I spent over $6,000 on restaurants and fast food one year? We failed miserably in making sure we had a responsible budget. All our other bills were always paid, so what's the problem? We could have spent far less on eating and saved the extra cash.
3. Remind yourself that you're still a ROCK STAR!
Whew! You passed the hardest part by being brutally honest with why you failed. Now let's talk about why you are a total ROCK STAR!
Your failure shouldn't be seen as a strike against your intelligence but as one more step towards your success. You are taking the initiative to identify where you failed, why you failed, and how you can improve. THAT is why you are so awesome and will eventually succeed!
4. Create a killer game plan.
Creating a clearly defined and realistic game plan will help keep you focused and stay on track. Make it as detailed as necessary to make sure nothing falls through the cracks.
Be honest about what worked last time and what didn't. Don't waste your experience from the last attempt! Closely examine your procedures from before and take away any important lessons.
Accept that there was some flaw in your previous plan and do the research to find the best alternative. Remember, you're looking for the right path, not just an easy substitute.
My first try at making money from home was pitiful because I didn't have any sort of game plan at all! I quickly learned my lesson after that and created a step-by-step list of ways I could get from A to B to self-employed income.
I reviewed it every single day and held myself accountable by telling my husband "I will have [blank] done by tomorrow," or "My goal is to make [blank] by next month."
5. Educate yourself and ask for help.
A wise person will search for the correct answer while a foolish person will assume their answer is always right. Do your research and educate yourself on the best practices for completing your specific goal.
Swallow your pride and ask for help. This was a hard lesson for me to learn since I desperately wanted to figure everything out on my own. But I when I placed my stubbornness aside, I finally started to see the results I wanted.
Overcoming failure does not have to be as hard as we think. But it does take a willingness to examine our actions and acknowledge where we may be going wrong and what we can do to fix things.
What was the flaw in my attempt to make an income from home and how could I change it? As soon as I identified where I was falling short, I was able to advance to my success.
Remember that overcoming failure can be just a short 5 step process.
- Failure may feel like the end of the world but it's not. The world is still here and so are you.
- Closely examine all of your previous efforts. Write down every success and every failure.
- You're a ROCK STAR because you're still fighting for your goal.
- Create a strong path of focus so you can reach your success!
- Be honest about your strengths and weaknesses. Educate yourself and ask for guidance when you need it. Don't let pride get in the way of your dreams!
YOU CAN DO THIS. You can overcome this bump in the road and one day you will look back and know that it only made you stronger and wiser.
How do you find the courage to keep fighting for your goals?